When communicating with their children, many parents have no patience to listen to what their children say, so they interrupt them in a hurry, show their attitudes and draw conclusions eagerly, or even judge them.
In “Gold Mediation”, there is a father who always interrupts his children.
The host asked the son, “Do you think your father loves you?”
“The son replied:” It is affirmative, when I was young I did not understand, grow up…”
“I am a shameless man in his heart, I say for him.”The father cut in on his son.
The son was momentarily speechless. For a long time, the son tried to express something for many times. However, his father interrupted him before he finished his sentence.
Finally, let the father said non-stop, the son no longer speak, a face of loneliness.
What my father didn’t know was that he was interrupting not just words, but emotional links.
It is the patience of every parent to let the child finish his words.
To hear the child’s heart is the greatest respect for the child
Educator Yin Jianli once said that one day, after watching a TV series with her 3-year-old daughter Yuyuan, she was about to go to bed when her daughter suddenly burst into tears.
What are you crying about?
Yuan Yuan said: “This house is not good, I want to change the house.”
Yin Jianli listen meng: “why want to change the house?”
Yuan Yuan is some anxious, answer at random, but Yin Jianli guides the child to say the idea of the heart patiently however step by step.
It turns out that in the TV play there is a girl’s mother left, the girl happened to have a toy red pot and round circle exactly the same, and red pot appeared in the camera for many times.
So, yuan Yuan mistakenly thought there was a big red basin of the house, mother will leave.
After understanding Yin Jianli explained to the child over and over again, Yuan Yuan stopped crying and fell asleep at ease.
Yin Jianli exclaimed: understand the child’s mind is too important, if adults think the child is not sensible, do not seriously understand what she is saying, a random roar or two, the child’s heart knot can not open, how long he will be distressed and uneasy ah!
Therefore, a little more patience, there will be less misunderstanding;A little more heart, there will be less harm.
The best posture is to squat down and listen
The host, Fang Qiong, once told a story about a time when his son was trying to go to the mall, but before long, the boy became so angry that he wanted to go home.Fang Qiong did not understand, then let the child cry.
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