Only when you have a correct understanding of yourself, can you obey your heart, live out yourself and become your ideal self.
Some kids, who seem to be trying very hard, always fail, fail to reach their goals and fail to complete their tasks.
It has to do with a low level of self-understanding, which is always based on external expectations and labels.Such as:
Girls do not need such a high degree, after graduation to take an examination of a civil servant or teacher is the best choice;
Boys have to work hard, to find a higher salary of the job, must not lose to girls…
Not knowing enough about yourself, not knowing what you can do and what you can do. “Wanting to be yourself” is just an empty word.
The best love for a child is to help him see himself and thus the world.
He is not an accessory, but an individual, with his own life.
Only when he knows who he is, what he wants to do, and what he can do, will it all fall into place and become what he is.
Zhao Yukun, a professor at Tsinghua University, said on the topic of raising children:
“Don’t try to mold your child into the person you want them to be. Help them become who they are.”
Letting your child follow his or her own path to self-fulfillment is not enough to say “support” or “encouragement”.
More importantly, protect the child’s curiosity, thirst for knowledge and understanding.
This is the motivation for him to improve himself.
The best love for a child is to support him, to tear off the label for the child, jump out of the box, without scruples to achieve their own courage and motivation.
Allow the child to ask more “why”, encourage him to try to explore the things he loves, and guide him to have a correct understanding and plan for himself.
Only in this way, the child will be able to realize their own road, like a tiger with wings added, like a fish in water.