It’s hard to imagine that this is a second-generation situation.But for Li Chengru, his son’s pain is just a kind of meaningless moan. He even said, “My son has never had any pain, but he can’t do with a little.”
Li Chenru talks about his views on his son
Once Li Dahai needed a piano and asked Li If he could lend him the piano in his room. Li was furious.He immediately admonished the boy:
“Don’t think everything in my room belongs to you and take it away if you want.”
Then he kicked his son, Li Dahai, away.
I don’t know why, but I feel chilly when I see this interview.
Secondly, many of Li Chenru’s comments on his son face to face are very sharp.
A few years ago, li Dahai participated in a TV show of the Second Generation of Stars. In an interview with his parents, Li Chengru commented on his son:
“What do you have to brag about other than looking like a dog, and you’re acting like a dog from your parents?”
Compared with other stars on the same show who enthusiastically support their children, Li’s repressive education mode is very embarrassing.
Li’s relationship with his son, Li Dahai, has been strained by his somewhat exaggerated negative comments.
Later, Li Dahai took part in the variety show “I am not a Star”. Other stars and their parents came to play in person. Only Li Dahai accompanied by his mother during the whole process.
Only a paragraph of father Li Chengru sent across the empty VCR to support the field, and, in the VCR, his father gave him a message, really not very friendly.Here’s what Andrew Lee says in the VCR:
You’re not a shit, you’re not a man…If you can’t beat these people, don’t sing, it’s not going anywhere…
This kind of wishes, really can only be used to describe the terrible, I do not know whether li Dahai because of the special eat this set of gai fa?Anyway, he finished third in the competition, and strangely enough, it was after this success that his relationship with Li began to thaw.
When Li Dahai’s film “Jason Bourne” was released in 2015, his father, Li Chengru, finally went to the scene to cheer for his son.
In fact, the relationship between Li Chenrou and his son Li Dahai is a typical pattern of patriarchal power in East Asian culture. The previous generation always thinks that it has unlimited power over the next generation and assumes the responsibility of discipline.
And the more successful a father is, the more likely he is to be contemptuous of his own children, and he may even rationalize and sanctify that contempt, aided by the father’s resources, wealth, and fame, which often suggest to the child, and usually the son, the following:
All I have is yours if you are as good as I think you are.
Here, inheritance — once objectified, becomes a cold bargain, and the terrible thing is that even if the son turns out to be what the father wants, the damage is likely to have been done, and the damage will continue as the son becomes the new father
Therefore, parents camp does not 100% agree with Li’s parenting philosophy, and there is nothing wrong with a moderate crackdown on boys, but letting boys experience setbacks and accepting their father’s verbal bullying are two different things.
Today’s story of Li Chengru is essentially two sides of a man. When you want to learn how to be responsible for yourself, you can refer to his cultivation and composure as an actor.
But when you ask what it takes to be a good dad, the relationship between him and his son may be a counterexample. Not all good actors make good dads.
Finally, let’s hope we all have a healthy and reasonable view of parenting.