Every mother who sacrifices herself for her family, takes care of everyone’s life but her own.
Parents’ accumulated sense of sacrifice will eventually overwhelm their children.
I once saw an experience shared by a netizen on Weibo:
He comes from a single-parent family, and his mother’s lifelong wish is to hope that he can get ahead. From the third year of junior high school, his mother began to accompany him to the college entrance examination.
Mother gets up early and gets up late every day to buy food, cook, do housework and take care of his daily life.He went to school, and hurried to do odd jobs, as busy as a top.
One of my mother’s most common sayings is:
Son, you must be admitted to a good university and find a good job in the future, so that you can make up for my hard work.With all her love, her mother weighed heavily on him, leaving him breathless.
In the first year of college entrance examination, he did not perform well and was not admitted to the ideal school.
His mother asked him to study for another year, but he still failed the next year.
For the sake of his mother, he wanted to take the exam again, but at this time, he often slept the whole night sleepless, serious anxiety makes him unable to take the exam.
I still remember that there is a sentence in “Chinese Giving” : “Excessive sacrifice is not love, but an unbearable burden.”
For example, the mother devoted all her resources to her child, but what she got was not the bright future of her ideal son, but caused a huge mental burden to her son, and even ruined his son in the end.
In Taiwan drama The Last Day of Jasmine, Lin’s mother is a master’s student in the United States. After marriage, she gives up the chance to be promoted to a professor in order to take better care of her family.
But her heart is not willing to, so, she will be the career of sacrifice into a child’s expectations.
When Molly won the first place in the exam, she thought she would get her mother’s praise, but what she waited for was her mother’s cold water. Mother felt that without her supervision, Molly could not have won the first place in the exam.
When her mother paid for a taxi for Molly who was in a hurry to go to school, she did not forget to educate her. The taxi fare was saved by her mother’s savings. If Molly did not study hard, it would be unfilial.
Every time Molly disobeyed her mother would yell hysterically at her about giving up her professorship, working hard for home, and suffering for the sake of her children.
For more than ten years, her mother scolded and dissatisfied Molly endlessly, making her feel that she should not have been born, and that she was not loved. She felt guilty and blamed herself for not meeting her mother’s requirements.
Accumulated pressure, finally crushed her, she resentment of her mother, to their disappointment, despair of life.