Sa Beining said that when he became a father, he observed his children every day. He could see his own shadow in the children, feel the wonderful growth of life, and even feel that he was participating in his own growth.
He enjoys the process and cites his wife as an example: “My wife, even if she becomes a stay-at-home mom, learns a lot in a short period of time about how to take care of the beginning of a life. It’s a learning process, a growth process.”
Therefore, even stay-at-home moms and dads who have no income are still valuable. Other family members should recognize this value and call on the society to fully recognize each person and each role.
His words aroused Yang’s strong agreement.
“People’s value should be recognized by themselves. Whether you go out to work or stay home full-time, you should recognize your value and not do things with a sense of sacrifice,” Yang added.
The sense of sacrifice is a particularly terrible thing in human relationships.”
Yes, it’s not a sacrifice to give up work and go back to family. It’s a choice.
Choosing to be involved in your child’s development is also a fun and rewarding experience, and its value is called “becoming a parent.”
Work and family are only different in terms of “value form”, not “value or not”.
Whether you are a stay-at-home dad or a stay-at-home mom, learn to enjoy the value of being a parent, enjoy the laughter and laughter that your children bring to us, and enjoy all the joys of life that your children bring to us.
Returning home with a sense of sacrifice: “I sacrificed my career for my children” is a disaster for parent-child relationships.
Parents’ sense of sacrifice robs us of our ability to perceive happiness
A survey conducted by pollsters in the United States on 60,000 women found that stay-at-home mothers who take care of their children for a long time had more negative feelings, such as depression and anxiety, than working mothers.
Twenty-eight percent of stay-at-home moms were clinically depressed.
Here’s a case study from the book How to Calmly Get Kids to Work with Parents Without Yelling or Yelling:
Lisa, a mother of two-year-old twins, quit her job as a project manager after maternity leave to take care of her children.
Taking care of two children every day leaves her with no time for herself at all.
She kept herself busy with the children’s daily chores during the day, and tidied up the house at night after the children had gone to bed.
She doesn’t even have time to sit down and chat with her husband, let alone get together with her friends.
To stay in touch with her friends, she checks her email late at night, after the kids have fallen asleep, which makes her sleep deprived and her mood worse during the day.