(3) No circle of friends
I have no social skills, no circle of friends, no interests, which also makes me very painful. It is said that people are middle-aged and mix with circles, but I have no circles at all, no career life.
To sum up, I lost the place is no communication skills, career can not break through, can not get into the circle, no friends, for a middle-aged people is not very sad?
As a matter of fact, I also know it is difficult to improve my estimation. Since childhood, I have only kept my head down in reading books, but I have never been able to communicate well with others. My “eq” is too low and my words are easy to hurt.
I do not know whether even the teacher can understand the possible personality, psychological state with you completely different people, whether you can give advice, thank you very much.
Your email is very technical and full of questions, but the list is clear and organized.
My answer is simple. You have no questions.
A middle-aged man, with a rising class, a happy family, a harmonious husband and wife, a number of quality houses, and a high and stable income, is not a problem.Men with problems do not achieve such emotional and financial success at 38.
A man like you, what you think is a weakness, anyone else can read as a strength: no circle?That’s family;Introverted?It is sedate;Can’t “come”?There is no right or wrong;Not personally identifiable?It’s a team player.
There are many characteristics of people, introvert and extrovert, outgoing and shy, talkative and oligotic, gregarious and lone Wolf, there is no distinction between good and bad, they are good or bad, right or wrong, people often push backward by the result, a successful person, everything is good, otherwise how can he succeed?A failure, everything is wrong, otherwise why does he fail?To know a person in this way is not entirely in accordance with the law of cause and effect, but it is also close to the truth that a person’s success is, of course, because he combines the energy of all his characteristics very well, greatly overcoming the resistance caused by his shortcomings.
A winner cannot be perfect. He must spend his life struggling with shortcomings and constantly improving himself.But successful people must show enough confidence that they can stand up for themselves, motivate themselves, and appreciate themselves, which is the important gain and significance of success.
You grew up with low self-esteem and were always afraid of what others might think of you. You looked down on yourself and bullied yourself.Now that you have it all, it’s time to move on.Stop being afraid of being different. What makes you different is your “personal brand.” Learn to appreciate yourself.